Angela Gossow Watch
Last week I had the awesome privilege of seeing Arch Enemy live, and of course they slayed! Very lively and energetic performance, great sound quality… everything you could ask for. Read a bubbly review if you don’t believe me.
Anyway, we all know Angela Gossow embodies our fantasies: talented metal frontwoman who tears it up onstage, rips our ears off with her banshee like vocals, and captivates us with her amazing presence. She is a true performer.
However, one fellow concert-goer decided to focus not on her talent, but on her looks and sexuality. This was very irritating and detracted from my enjoyment. It got worse as he started to describe what he’d want to do to her if he had some alone time with her. It was hard to ignore, since he was a lot bigger than me and he was standing right behind me.
My reaction was to glance at him and think, “Yeah right, as if you’d EVER have a chance with her.”
The Male Gaze deludes men into thinking they’re entitled to any woman they want. Entitled to sexualize any woman in front of them and assess each one on her supposed fuckability (or lack of fuckability). To be a woman in a public space, even if you’re wearing a mu mu, is to be taking up too much room. Thus you must be cut down to size, reminded that you exist solely to be pleasing to men, and no matter what other talents you posess, your existence becomes limited to an identity as a sex object.
Angela is an incredibly powerful and talented woman, but remember – she’s a WOMAN. Therefore she can never separate her accomplishments from her sexuality, which will be used to diminish and trivialize her work.
There’s nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to a performer. However, there is a big difference between feeling a sexual appreciation for someone and using that attraction to detract from their humanity.
I feel for Angela, she must take a lot of shit for something she can’t help. If it was anything but her gender, there would be a little more outrage.